In the Pursuit of Happiness, It's Difficult but It's Gets Better

(Tampa - Fl) -- There is something I always believed it's unfair that people have to say who they love and a narrow segment of society judging. I firmly believe that everyone has the right to love the person they treasure without any taboo. The problem is when people try to impose and any imposition of character is wrong, let them live and live, as some people say every now and then.

I recently spoke with my parents about my own sexual orientation, I am bisexual and I can say that my better half is a man, the chat became a fight in less than 24 ours and I am experience twice the life of someone who decided to become an honest person with his own self in order to achieve happiness. We can't lie to our personas, it's impossible and denying who we are can cause stress to our own mental health as well physical bodies. I really think is wrong that a simple matter as love people judge it, but then again that people will judge and ignorant individuals who have no other weapons will use religion as the maximum truth even to explain pseudo-scientific facts even if life is more complex than one reality as it is composed of million different realities under one world.

The only unnatural thing it's celibacy, there is no such thing in the world and yet humans are the only ones to say it is a natural behavior. It gets better but the path is painful much of the time for much of the people who decide to be happy even if that means to defy the status-quo.You are never alone, there will be always a friend who will support you even if they are n the distance, and there are several hotline such as the GLTB National Help Center who will assist people in despair, I can say thanks to a friend I discovered how these hotline's can really help you.

Sometimes it's difficult, it's never easy to come in fact with the terms, I have to say it's been an emotional roller coaster with so many different factors to analyze and think, one thing I was debating in my head if I should do it was the economical factor, many young people who come at peace with their life think that as they rely on their parents and probably that's the biggest fear, being alone and without a penny and that is a situation that happens to many people who are cut from their families because their sexual orientation varies with their values.

Values is a strong word, a really treacherous word that usually separate individuals, duality, good or wrong. There is no duality in the universe even for shades between black and white there is always grey. What is good or wrong.? The ability to discern what can destroy you or to make you happy, the tears.? Who knows, for is just the ability to discern what is the best from the wrong according to your living experiences, there are times where we can't pretend, where it's you or them, a moment to take a decision but you will have to pay for the consequences the good one and the bad ones.

It takes a lot of courage, I am relearning certain things such as about life, friendship and love and what you can do to survive. It's not easy, but there is always hope and strengths to continue off, because if you keep fighting it will get better.

A Colombian-American in Tampa Bay

Tampa Bay, Downtown View

It's been three years, five months so far and probably 8 days. I stop counting a while ago, it's probably a little bit more but I don't mind, I stop counting a while ago when I realize how lucky I am to have the chance to grow up and live in two different places that have one thing in common, the views of the Caribbean and the winds that go North to South are the same ones that washed my tears when I was younger.

I am from Cartagena, then I am from Colombia, also I am from Brandon, Florida; and, also I am from the United States. I am in between, the best way I can describe it, but overall I like to say I am a guy, with a sexy accent who has no nationalities but two places that he can call home. I am a Colombian, an American living in Tampa Bay but overall I am Gustavo, Gus or Gus-Gus for short, I am who I am.

Starting over with you life it ain't easy, specially being a foreigner, living outside where you grew up can be challenging; language is another factor as well certain attitudes of people toward individuals who don't share certain traits; names, a long non American can be a problem toward finding a job if you don't have the right credentials, it's a process that no one is really prepared for, it's a hell in the best way possible, but things get better, they get better eventually if you work hard. You know dear reader, the American Dream is not dead, it's probably dead in the heart of the people who gave up, but not in the hearts of the people who go outside and fight for their dreams and to see their communities better, that's the American Dream, to go out and fight for your beliefs.

Culturally, there are different factor as well basic differences, such one between Colombia and the States, people do respect more public spaces and you can walk on more space as driving is far more safer than driving in any street of Cartagena. How you deal with people it's another aspect; in Colombia is far more easy, people are more informal but use more honorific while in the States people are less informal but you have to be careful with personal space as well with vocabulary. Those small differences can be problematic if you are not careful or know the cultural ethic codes which they vary from region to region.

It's been quite a process, do I regret living it? No, I don't, even in the worse moments of my beginnings I realize how much wonderful the process was because I was learning and I'm still. 3 years ago I have to be honest, I barely spoke the language, or knew anything about being independent, but between tears and not tiaras, I learned how to become the man I always wanted to be before moving my from my grandparents house.