The Different Layers of the Closet

The metaphor of being trapped someplace, can scare anyone. The ego can be your own worst enemy, as well the fear of rejection.

Sometimes we hesitate about ourselves, we lack of the locus of control to keep fighting forward, we simply leave everything behind.

The closet can be a very lonely, no matter if it's surrounded by people, at the end those people are just layers of clothing that sometimes just cover the loneliness.

The step that many of you, us, we, have to take out to be happy always comes with a price. The fear of rejection, that many doesn't want to face in their lifetime because they don't want to lose something.

It's what we can call, based on an anime named Fullmetal Alchemist The Law of Equivalent Exchange which in other words means, every action creates a rebound.

The fear of losing your family, the fear of losing the little you have, it can develop a toxic relation with everything that surrounds you, and comes the idea of what to do to being happy.?

There are many doors to open, many layers and outfits you can try before discovering, which one fits you the best. There are many combinations you can try, sometimes some people won't find them, won't even see it, and will go on the streets pretending.

Some of the layers, come with the stigma, they are being broken and the paradigms of discrimination towards what you wear, that reflect your personalities are being accepted, that the world is not filled with white and black outfits but there is a bunch of colors in the spectrum.

Some people will never realize the words "self-acceptation", they will live in the shadows. Maybe is the fear of risk also,? rejection is also a part, but also is self-realization.

How do you know your own self.? That is a question, that beyond the cheap internet phrases from Paulo Coelho and some other self help authors, it goes into a metaphysical level, it can be answered just by the act of living and learning.

Just live and get out from your comfort zone, without doing anything stupid. Know a little bit of other realities than yours, learn what is happening in the community, even so read a book or travel around your city. You will live a little bit more just by knowing, and when you know what is happening around you, then you will know what is happening to you, and discover a solution to your inner questions.

In the Pursuit of Happiness, It's Difficult but It's Gets Better

(Tampa - Fl) -- There is something I always believed it's unfair that people have to say who they love and a narrow segment of society judging. I firmly believe that everyone has the right to love the person they treasure without any taboo. The problem is when people try to impose and any imposition of character is wrong, let them live and live, as some people say every now and then.

I recently spoke with my parents about my own sexual orientation, I am bisexual and I can say that my better half is a man, the chat became a fight in less than 24 ours and I am experience twice the life of someone who decided to become an honest person with his own self in order to achieve happiness. We can't lie to our personas, it's impossible and denying who we are can cause stress to our own mental health as well physical bodies. I really think is wrong that a simple matter as love people judge it, but then again that people will judge and ignorant individuals who have no other weapons will use religion as the maximum truth even to explain pseudo-scientific facts even if life is more complex than one reality as it is composed of million different realities under one world.

The only unnatural thing it's celibacy, there is no such thing in the world and yet humans are the only ones to say it is a natural behavior. It gets better but the path is painful much of the time for much of the people who decide to be happy even if that means to defy the status-quo.You are never alone, there will be always a friend who will support you even if they are n the distance, and there are several hotline such as the GLTB National Help Center who will assist people in despair, I can say thanks to a friend I discovered how these hotline's can really help you.

Sometimes it's difficult, it's never easy to come in fact with the terms, I have to say it's been an emotional roller coaster with so many different factors to analyze and think, one thing I was debating in my head if I should do it was the economical factor, many young people who come at peace with their life think that as they rely on their parents and probably that's the biggest fear, being alone and without a penny and that is a situation that happens to many people who are cut from their families because their sexual orientation varies with their values.

Values is a strong word, a really treacherous word that usually separate individuals, duality, good or wrong. There is no duality in the universe even for shades between black and white there is always grey. What is good or wrong.? The ability to discern what can destroy you or to make you happy, the tears.? Who knows, for is just the ability to discern what is the best from the wrong according to your living experiences, there are times where we can't pretend, where it's you or them, a moment to take a decision but you will have to pay for the consequences the good one and the bad ones.

It takes a lot of courage, I am relearning certain things such as about life, friendship and love and what you can do to survive. It's not easy, but there is always hope and strengths to continue off, because if you keep fighting it will get better.